OUr Story

By Daddy

It all started when

My wife and I met back in mid 2009 while working together.  Right from the beginning my future wife had our coworkers telling her, you needed to meet this guy.  We would run into each other from time to time, in the halls or maybe the break room.  Several months in to her employment there was a company bake sale to raise money for a charity.  I purchased an assortment of cookies and gave a chocolate chip cookie to the future Mrs.  Although she denies the connection, knowing what I know now… of course chocolate was the way to her heart.  Our friendship grew from there and by the end of that year we were going out on our first date.

The Long Term Commitment

Flash forward three years and my then girlfriend suggested that maybe I should consider buying a house.  As a bachelor I was quite content with apartment living.  Low maintenance, cheap rent and just enough space for my couch, TV, bed and a pantry full of video games and DVD’s… What more could I need?  Depending on who’s reading this, you’re either thinking, well it sounds like you had everything you needed, or maybe you’re thinking, it sound like you needed to grow up.  I’ll admit the idea of having a place of my own did sound kind of nice, so I figured maybe it was time to make a change and look for a place to call mine… ours.

By the end of 2012 what started out as my house was now our house, and it was under construction.  A few months in to 2013 we move in to our house.  Did I forget to mention that earlier that year we got engaged.  Things were going along so well and we were already making a huge thirty year commitment, so it only made sense that we should get married.  That really sounds like the most cold and unromantic way to say that but it was really a great and romantic time in our lives.  Maybe a story for another day.

The Best Year Ever

2014 ushered in a great year; one that we both still refer to as our best year ever.  The year started off with a Disney cruise, we got our dog Molly then went on family vacation to the mountains followed by another cruise (not Disney but still good) and we capped off the year with our wedding overlooking the ocean down in Vero Beach.  

You may have noticed we got a dog.  This was due in part to the fact that my wife loves dogs but this was also her way of getting me accustom to the idea of taking care of another life.  Up to this point I was not a big fan of having a baby.  

Days Gone By

Don’t get me wrong, I love kids and I’m basically a big kid myself but the responsibility is what worried me.  I’m the kind of guy that doesn’t necessarily like to plan things out in advance.  I like just being able to go somewhere and do something at the drop of a hat.  That second cruise we took in 2014, I think we booked that about four days ahead of time on a whim.  

My feelings about having children of my own weren’t always like this.  In my younger years if you would have asked me about having children I would have told you absolutely.  My biggest obstacle was that minor technical detail of having a good steady relationship.  Well, next thing I know I was in my mid-thirties.  Time has a way of causing a person to settle into habit and routines.  Until someday you find yourself feeling… comfortable.  Comfortable with your life, your time and in my case a general lack of stress and responsibility.

Project Dog

Back to why we got a dog.  I think we both figured Molly would help serve our agendas.  For me it was to fulfill my wife’s need to take care of something small and cute and for my wife it was warming me up to the idea of it not just being the two of us.  

For the next couple of years things settled in to a nice status quo.  Our family and friend gave us little nudges along the way but I still wasn’t ready and my wife was drifting more and more towards my way of thinking.  What really happened is that we became very comfortable with doing what we wanted and when we wanted to do it.  There was little in the way of us doing whatever we wanted in the spur of the moment.  Our only real responsibility was being home at night to take Molly out.  

The Turning Point

Late in 2015 my wife began to feel the pull again.  She had just turned 30 and I was now 41.  Wow, where does the time go?  This time was a little different for me.  For the first time in years I could imagine myself having a son or daughter.  Just as I was getting more comfortable with this idea of it not just being the two of us and a dog forever, a major life changing event occurred.  

My fathers passing in early 2016 was hard on us all.  He more than anyone wanted us to have a child.  He was already a grandfather to one.  His grandson, my sisters son but he wanted more.  A few months after his passing I decided that I was ready to start a family of my own.  With 2016 being such a rough year already we decided to wait until the next year.  

The Here and Now

That brings me to where we are today.  There have been so many new and wonderful experiences since finding out my wife was having a baby.  That led us to wanting to start this website and our podcast.  There is so much more to tell but those are other stories for another day.